Discovering Tobin’s cancer

Posted by Tom on December 20th, 2007

My three-year old son has cancer.

Tobin had been sick for a few weeks, with a cough that wouldn’t go away. Multiple trips to the doctor’s office offered no respite. Antibiotics didn’t work. An inhaler didn’t improve his breathing. He visited the doctor’s office again on Monday, December 10th, and was seen by a “substitute” physician (the doctor was out for some reason).

A quick test showed his blood-oxygen level was insufficient (low 80s, if I recall correctly), and we were advised to take him over to the emergency room at UVRMC. There, the triage nurse confirmed the low oxygen saturation, and fast-tracked him in to the ER, where he was immediately put on oxygen.

They did a chest X-ray (because he was having trouble breathing, they moved him to the front of the line). The doctor concluded he has a “raging” case of pneumonia, and his labored breathing was caused by a significant amount of fluid in his right lung, rendering it almost useless. Draining it would require surgery to insert a chest tube. They sent us by ambulance up to Primary Children’s Medical Center (PCMC).

Shortly after arriving at PCMC, they gave him a CT scan. During that scan, it was clear something was abnormal, because there were six people crowded in a small room studying the monitor intently.

Only a few minutes later the doctor came in and told me Tobin has cancer, most likely neuroblastoma (the neuroblastoma diagnosis was later confirmed as stage 4). My wife arrived as we were discussing it (she had stopped to make arrangements for our other children), and we started the conversation over.

Tobin was admitted to the Pediatric ICU (PICU), where he stayed overnight before being transferred to the cancer ward the following day.

(I realize this is a rather depressing place to end, but I’m tired. I’ll write more in the coming days.)

13 Responses to “Discovering Tobin’s cancer”

Tom:

We are praying for Tobin and your family.

Craig

Tom,

I only know you from your blogging but I’d like to let you know that You’re in my thoughts and prayers. I hope your son’s treatment is successful.

Jeremy

Tom,

I know what it’s like to have a sick child. My best to Tobin, you, and your family. The people up at Primary Children’s are the best.

Mark

Tom, my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. God bless.

Tom, I know you will meet this challenge head on like you always do. Tobin and your family are in my family’s prayers. If there is anything we can do, please let me know.

Mark

Tom,

What much more can I say than to echo the comments of those who have already commented…we’re thinking of you and your family, and you are in our prayers. We pray that it will turn out good in the end.

God bless.

Tom, we’re so sorry to hear about Tobin. You guys are in our prayers.

Valerie

Tom, that is sad news. My thoughts and best wishes are for you and your little Tobin during what me a most trying time.

Obi

I’m so sorry you’re joining us in the NB family. There are resources for you from other parents and families across the country in a listserv and I would suggest you immediately try out www.loneliesthour.org - built by people who have been where you are now. The odds are outrageous, just keep in your heart that so many of us have beat them and will help you get there too. JoAnne Johnson, nana to Abby Conrad, www.caringbridge.org/visit/abbyconrad

I am so sorry you are having to join our “club”, CANCER PARENTS. I too suggest checking out the site JoAnne listed. There is so much information to take it, but having one place where it is condensed can make it eaiser. Also, the listserv is a great place to network with other parents who have been in your shoes. God Bless you and yours in the difficult days to come. www.brenda-chad.blogspot.com

God Bless.

Tom and Susie,
Our hearts are with you. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
Love,

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